Forgive Yourself, Friend
My mother always said “everyone gets up in the morning, planning to do their best that day, and usually goes to bed, thinking, I’ll do better tomorrow!”
This quote has absolutely, without a doubt, shaped the lens in which I look at the world and myself. I don’t know when it was that I actually understood what she was saying, but one day, many years into my life, it did. It was kinda like when it finally clicked, many years into my life, that you LIE like a rug was a play on words, or LAY… because rugs lay on the ground. HELLO?! Sometimes we can hear something so often we don’t even stop to listen to what is being said.
I used to get all irritated at people who cut me off in traffic, or people who shoved past me in the store, or people who yelled at their teenagers in public, or people who gave me dirty looks for no apparent reason… until I realized what my mom had been saying all those years.
The thing is, I don’t believe, in any instance, that someone got up in the morning, determined to be a total jerk in society. I believe that everyone, unless you are a sociopath, wakes up with the intention to do good, be nicer, more patient, kinder, stronger, fearless, gentle, or more powerful. And our stuff, our years of stuff, and the stuff we were taught by our surrounding, and the people around us, causes a disconnect between the “I’m gonna be/I wanna be” and the “I am/I was”.
It’s not like any of us think ‘I’m gonna be a jerk to the first person who crosses me today!’ Most of us don’t even know why or how something so small could trigger such a response within us. And so we think what’s the point, and we go to sleep wanting to do better… tomorrow.
Well, I’d like to challenge you friends, to extend grace to one another, and when something triggers you, to understand that that’s just your humanity showing you there is something inside you that could be healed. And forgive others, because they are probably going through the same thing… or worse.
And so what if someone just is a jerk, don’t let them steal your joy. Don’t let them hinder your progress. Because as you forgive others, you open up a pathway to forgiving yourself. And that friends, is what I’m writing this blog about. Forgiving you. Letting yourself be, free. And knowing that you are your best you. Stop comparing yourself to others, or even to your past self. Pick yourself up off the ground, and keep going. Because you, you’re worth it. You’re worth fighting for.
So let’s fight for you. You, fight for you. Let yourself have bad days. Let yourself fail. And then get back up and try again. Because you can overcome, and you can walk in dignity and grace. And most of all, you can find peace within your soul.
You were not created to carry the burdens you carry. The Son of God, came to earth, and died, so you wouldn’t have to. So take a deep breath. And smile at who you are, who you were, and who you can become. And become them. We are cheering you on.
Matthew 11:28-30 “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”